I think everyone has someone they want to save. Someone they see struggling, and want to wave a magic wand and make it all better. After all everyone has a bit of superhero spirit in them.
But, its important to remember that whilst you can help you can’t always fix what is going on in someones life.
Thats not to say, they won’t get better if they are ill, or not make the massive mistake you keep warning them not to take.Its not to say you shouldn’t be there and try and help. It just means that you have to remember that you can’t fix others. And its unhealthy for you to think that you can.
Whilst I loved my school and wouldn’t change going there for the world it sadly seemed to be a bit of a ‘breeding ground’ for mental health problems.
Throughout the years I was there I watched and supported several of my friends going through a range of illnesses- eating disorders, depression, anxiety and self-harm to name a few. Friends all around me were struggling and I wished I could wave a magic wand and make it all better. I became obsessed with being the person to make them all better. I wanted it to get better. But no matter how little sleep i had trying to find ways to fix them, I couldn’t. Only they could.
And it took me a long time to realise this.
But when I did finally figure this out in my head, it helped me to help them more. Instead of trying to fix them, I was there for them. I was a friend, a stern voice, a hug- whatever they needed.
I also worked and continue to work crazily hard on something to try and make that change- Youth Mental Health matters.
And whilst, these little steps may not make the massive change I know was needed. It was a start, and if it helped one person have a better experience of life then the hours of work that go into it are all worth it.
Saving people, isn’t about fixing them. Saving people, is about loving them.
Something we should all do a little bit more of.