I wanted to talk about something that’s very important to me: self worth. The quote that I think best represents what I want to say is “we accept the love we think we deserve”. This quote is from The Perks Of Being a Wallflower by Stephen Chbosky. I took it to mean that the reason you let people come into your life is because you think you are worthy of them. It can be friends or partners. If people think they are worth much less than a friend they will start to pull away. If you think somebody is so much cooler than you, your immediate response is “I could never be friends with them”. But it’s all about self worth.
I think it’s all about remembering that people wouldn’t want to spend time with you if you weren’t amazing and just because you can’t see your best qualities, that doesn’t mean somebody else won’t love them. Sometimes if you find an amazing friend(s) then it can be hard to think you deserve them. But you do! And if there’s somebody in your life who isn’t treating you well, you don’t deserve that. If somebody is making you feel worthless or miserable, it may be hard, but you need to cut them out of your life. Which is easier said than done. It is especially hard if you have known them for years or were previously really close to you. Pulling away doesn’t mean that you can’t still be happy about the friendship that you had. But if it’s developing into something more negative than positive, it’s not worth it.
Just remember this:if somebody tries to include you, they want to. They don’t have to. They could completely ignore you and make other friends. You need to value your friends, but also value yourself. Believe that there are people that will love you for you, because there are! And it’s worth taking the time to find those people.